Social Valences Exploring Social Boundary Definitions

                                                          
                        Social Recursion is that process of self definition by comparative mutual exclusion. A.K.A "I am searching for the polar opposite of me." {Not my profile. Just an illustration for what the actual norm is for most men. Surprise!} Objective: marriage. "I am this, then therefore you must be that." "I will not able to be those things that I want from you." "Will you please complete me?" (General incompatibility.)

                        Healthy Socially Recursive Boundary Definitions can be Generally Recursive. (Like by series of chain successions infinitely reiterated, "Susan is much smarter than me, but I'm much smarter than Bob who is even smarter than Jennifer." "And by the way Jennifer is brilliant!") Or can be ordered by the orders of a Primitive Recursion, as in the case of a one time absolute un redefined social boundary identification, A.K.A. "Me Tarzan, you Jane.")

                        Social recursion is therefor often fraught with lots of silly self defining boundary definitions of our own unexpressed and often unrealistic expectations. Most men, (in fact most people) are very hung up on fantasies of dominance. "Men may want to initiate sex, (Especially if we are normal,) but sex therefore is then the woman's prerogative only. As it is for us guys, we must be prepared to stop at any time, we must defer to those people who are most vulnerable. Ironically, most people want to believe that men never feel vulnerable. This is nonsense. Social recursion phenomena is often used to rationalize very strange popular prejudices, sexual ignorance and even political bigotry.

                        The Primitively Recursive one time compact boundary distinctions of basic polarities are;                                        Boy / Girl
                        Young /Old
                        Strong / Weak
                        Top / Bottom
                      Rich / Poor
And so on.
                       Generally Recursive social boundary definitions often in the form of a Family Tree.
                       I have two parents.
                       I have four grandparents.                      {Boundaries squared}
                       I have eight great grandparents.
And so on.
                       I have one spouse.                
                       I have two children.                              {Boundaries compounded factorially}
                       I have six neighbors.
                       I have twenty-four spheres of social contact that have their own independent boundary conditions.
And so on.

                       In examining Social Valences we will be concerned primarily with the Primitively Recursive Social Boundary Definitions. This is simply because that at the core of all self defining social distinctions even things like chains of command or even meritocracy are reducible from orders of succession to comparative polarities. All Groups and Group Dynamics can be viewed as a series of Dyads. Individuals are compared to the groups, the group is compared to the individual. People are compared within the group. This may seem like just so much public relations math. It is. The self is always the most primary point of departure when we are identifying social boundaries. One into the many. (And from the many we learn as one.)

                       Social Valences are most interesting when we come to the "Opposites Attraction." The joys of living are in a dynamic universe. Although opposites are relative, we also must deal with others valences. Between any 2 people, one of them is always going to be more rational than the other one who will invariably be more passionate. These values can change when those same two people are with completely other people. Polarity is ta key for understanding the asymmetry of Idealized Social Recursions with charged valences of attraction. This is in no way limited to just sexual attractions or gender. It's just that gender is the first of these most primary of Primitive Recursions. Youth follows in reverence the aged. The rich seek to nourish the poor. The strong seek to protect the weak. Etc.