Silly question? Maybe not. I have the privilege of working with believers and non believers alike. Providing alternative diagnostics means knowing the territory and it's boundaries. The most consistent barrier is denial and ignorance. I know about denial and ignorance first hand. But I can't blame myself for other peoples evasions and denials, I can only confront my own avoidances. This means on occasion, I have a responsibility to speak up for myself. Rational "Complementarity" does give me good cause to respect others "Bias of Opinions" without being confused. The dynamics of normal social tension are riddled with these emotionally glaring incongruent evasions. Interested in understanding peoples Cycles and Styles of Evasion? For clarity I have reposted the pertinent documentation from "Some People Are Very Different, Very Differently." April 27th, 2013;
At this point I would like to enumerate four "Styles of Evasion."
1. Active deception, Showing Off, Lying, Phoniness, Bragging, Exaggeration, Hyperbole, etc. <
2. Spacing out, Disengagement, Withdrawal, Omission, Vagueness, Aloofness, etc. ^
3. Condescension, Put downs, Dismissal, Negation, Passive Aggression, etc. >
4. Over Compartmentalization, Long Suffering, Burnout, Over Conscientiousness etc. v
You probably recognize any or all of these evasions in yourself and or others. Some more than others. I'm showing the ways we confront or avoid the stresses of uncertainty. When in doubt, learned styles of evasion take over. A little Meta Formally Logical diagram to demonstrate;
2. Spacing Out
1. Lying + 3. Condescension
4. Burnout
At the center of this diagram are the unknown uncertainties that we can try to evade, just in our own individually distinctive way. You will notice the symmetry and the two axis of polarity. Acceptance of the various uncontrollable uncertainties in life is the mark of a truly open person. It is almost impossible to be open all the time. We have these evasions hardwired into our survival instincts. Often we exhibit these different evasions for innocent reasons. The next time you see someone being evasive, consider the source. They/We maybe feeling vulnerable.
The two axis are; Horizontally, Positive Misrepresentation of fact on the left side and the Negative Misrepresentation of emotions on the right side.
Vertically, Passive Evasion of responsibility on top and the Active Evasion of irresponsibility on the bottom.
No point in making a big deal about the why we behave this way, even if the emergence of this kind of soul symmetry is more than many of you are going to be willing to accept. Just know that when we evade, we use energy and that any real sensitive will know it. Show a little empathy. This is where I get to show a little tact.
