I would like to start today with another apology. I realize that my arguments may bury some of my best assertions. I do not limit sharing findings with people of like mind and I hope that regardless of bias such things as my work on "Styles of Evasion" can be used to study human behavior and reading technologies more accurately.
As you have been reading along you have probably noticed that I am robbing the Games Theorists blind. Games theorists, through mass media, special interests, wedge politics and pornography, have been robbing each and every one of us. We as society have been told what it is that we are supposed to want. And, we are told that our choices have already been made for us and that we want whatever it is that is being sold at us. We consumers are expected to buy in.
My research says that Opinion Bias has an aesthetic. A Point of Sale. Only those of you who have chosen to "Read" know what I'm selling. And in fact this is a "Give Away Dance." How can I fail? I'm playing the good game. I'm not selling any persuasion. (But maybe I should, people often don't value what is free. But then again you are elite Readers.)
Love Contracts are nothing more than good business in good faith. How can we fail?
A dear friend several years ago asked me to write up a list of all the things I really want from my perfect lover. I argued it was a "Devil's Bargain" and that any one who meets all my standards is way too good for me. (Be careful what you wish for.) As I've already mentioned, I'm always dating out of my league. I don't buy the either or, "Give them a choice of two," nonsense. I want potential partners, not ownership. I've asked many different people about this magic "Wish Fulfilling Gem" and I got lots of different responses. One friend said he would always be disappointed if he thought that much about "shopping" for perfect spouses. Another woman flat out just said "Writing up a profile requesting that the universe bring her that frog prince, doesn't work." And that she had tried it several times. I went back to my friend and told him that, "YOU MUST ASK FOR EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT." (Information is golden.) He confessed that the whole strategy has brought him less than perfect results.
Because of our societies perverse obsession with class and money, the thought of contracting for love is regarded with an understandable hostility. "Where is the passion?" is a common reaction. However failing to be assertive in the process of contracting for love is by far the most common mistake we often make. We commit too early and or never at all. Even pick up artist know that they have to commit to the seduction process, if they want to get laid. (Blech!) That almost all people obsess in love is probably the reason why Men and Women are expected to lie evasively to each other, sooner or later. No one is going to be totally rational at the feet of a budding love relation, but there is a lot to be said for a serious attempt at objectivity.
