Emotional Affairs and Transitional Relations

                                        

                   How we love each other shapes our futures together (And apart). This early post has been very popular, Growing up does not mean that we loose the capacity to love honestly, with faith and trust. In truth, we can have healthy transitional relations that are not objectifying at any age. These are never more necessary than when we need to outgrow the trap of the rebound relationship;

Growing into a new history; NEXT CORE DOCUMENTATION               Another Wheel of Life and Love:   Thursday, July 4, 2013

                                                         2.  Monogamy / Marriage                    
                                  1.  Childhood Abstinence  ~X~  3. Post Monogamy / Promiscuity
                                                         4.  Emotional Affairs / Transitional Relationships

                            Let's look at another one of my models. Circular maturation. When we are children we are all sexually pure. We were all the tops, ascending on our wheel of life this first "Ideal" prepares us for the maturation into "Marriage." Ideally from virgins we are sanctified for becoming uncorrupted "Parents." Anything past a personal history of monogamy implies a non-monogamy. I know this sounds like B.S. but bear with me just a little longer. From the top of the wheel we turn again downward. We mature to an almost inevitable state of non-monogamy. Maturation can always be seen as a decline into a lower energy state. Post marital divorce almost always precedes 2nd marriages, however now days most of us lost our virginity before marriage. <Promiscuity is by definition any sexual contact with more than one other person.> (Sounds unfair and harsh doesn't it, such is the prejudice of a sick society.) This obviously can't be the end. When we reach the bottom of the cycle we must prepare for a new beginning with the ability to "love" many people emotionally, even without attachment. Maturation does seem to involve renewed capacities for  "love " that can again be pure, and it is generally not sexual. Unlike a supposed "one" true love, Emotional Affairs are almost always transitional in nature. Many of the most profound love relations are of this purely friend type. (When we travel almost all love relations are of this transitional nature, no less profound.)

                            Just like with my models for "STYLES OF EVASION" Apr 25th, "Some People Are Very Different"and the so called "WHEEL OF OBJECTIFICATION" May 26th, "Mirroring and Empathy (Subjective Boundary Definitions)"; we can see a circularly rotational symmetry with a kind of angular momentum. I say the meta formal nature of this model for maturation is implicit in most religions, no matter how arbitrary and out dated. Point being that growing older is not without it's perks, the most obvious is the ability to love and start over again even if it is as a wiser and more realistic person. New History anyone?