The Dynamic System of Submissiveness and Dominance (+)

                                                   
 Thanks to readers re accessing this post from Tuesday, August 6, 2013

                          Good morning readers. The subject of psychic reading techniques is boring. I taught palmistry in a well recognized venue that provided many interested students. (All woman I might add.) It's important to break from the monotony. Outlining a Dynamic System of cooperative Submissiveness and Dominance is an excellent way to explain circular Meta Formality in Yin and Yang Social Logic. As with many things about bias and circularity of events people usually get things backwards. Rarely is any one person ever totally dominant or submissive. That's just popular prejudice. I say, "If we had a contest of who were the three most dominant men of the twentieth century, I say it would be a toss up between the Dali Lama, Mahatma Gandhi, and Mr. Rogers." (Mr. Rogers was a very harmless but influential children's program personality here in the states, originally a government assassin. He would deal with very important issues in utterly supportive non threatening ways.) Each of these men are deserving of our trust and are indomitable. When they spoke, people cooperate. (I mustn't forget Mandela or Martin Luther King, also non violent and indomitable.)

                          Being able to inspire trust and confidence requires a person to be trustworthy. Fear, violence and intimidation almost always learned because of someone who themselves has been intimidated. Non violence, in fact is indomitable. Once someone refuses to be intimidated they can no longer be controlled just by the threat of harm. Returning violence for violence escalates the exchange of abuse. 

                          No where is this myth of dominance more backward than in intimate relations. The struggle for control and that illusion of dominance just produces conflict. Cooperation necessitates giving and taking. Not that futile struggle for an appearance of dominance. The more obsessive someone is about their appearance of dominance, the more subservient that individual is. Bullies are subservient to violence and to the threat of violence. Everyone knows cowardly bullies who are afraid of being seen as weak. The demand for Dominatrix is highest amongst executives who are always bossing everyone else around. (Checkout what Hitler liked Eva Braun to do for him, or don't.)

                         Central to our "Wheel of Objectification," {Mirroring and Empathy (Subjective Boundary Definitions) May 26th, 2013} is that object attachment to "The Security Blanket." Central to all self deception is that illusion of security and control, and the complacency that comes from feeling immune. My Mother married a 4 time bigamist, used car dealer in her second marriage, just to make sure we had a dad. The man ended up dying in a heroin sting. Bad man. Horrible unworthy father. We often want to believe that when we submit, that we are expected to. We are often expected to avoid taking responsibility for ourselves.

                            I think people who speak of being submissive to God are very brave. This type of reasoning however lends itself to letting others decide who speaks for their God (Christian, Moslem, Jew? etc?) In such circumstances a woman wants to be worthy of a man who himself is faithfully trustworthy. This is not always the case, our species is coming out of a spiritual dark age. Atheism for good reason, tis therefore comforting and bracing at the same time. Rebellion is usually not the only answer to societies ignorance, but neither is apathy or denial. Religions, for all the good they can bring, (Superior Moral Codes?) Religion also provides illusory fantasies of exclusive dominance and deterministic control. So then gentlemen, I propose, just because most women are innately more cooperative than us guys, of and by itself this does not make a woman more submissive at all. To the contrary, cooperation {listening and then communicating} is the only real key to dominance, ever. So get it straight guys. You want women to trust you? Earn it.

                           I have a dear friend who is a quadriplegic. (The Iron Quad) As the central person in his business, he is in essence utterly dominant, although he could not hurt anyone. he says, "The control is with his staff, they individually by necessity must be cooperatively submissive." No ill motives incline him to abuse or exploit his power. He needs us. We need him. We must cooperate with him, he has none of the outward control. He earns our trust. Wes says, "Dominance and submission are about peoples desire for happiness." People confuse the desire for control with dominance. 

                           I say, "It is much easier to dominate people than it is to control them." I work with a lot of big guys, athletes, some are very aggressive. It's always easier to get them to cooperate with me, than it is to manipulate them. I like to say men are not dogs, we are horses. We want to make our own decisions. So never chase anyone, it doesn't work anyways. Inspire confidence. These guys are much bigger and stronger and for the most part much younger than me, and yet I'm respected and trusted. I would hope that in the long run, I will earn your trust as well.