Growing into a new history NEXT CORE DOCUMENTATION # 2

                         I am going to repost this page from back on Thursday, July 4, 2013 

Wheel of life:

                                                         2.  Monogamy / Marriage                     
                                  1.  Childhood Abstinence  ~X~  3. Post Monogamy / Promiscuity
                                                         4.  Emotional Affairs / Transitional Relationships

                            Let's look at another one of my models. "Circular Maturation." When we are children we are sexually pure. We were all tops, starting on the wheel of life the first "Ideal" prepares us for the assent into "Marriage." Ideally from virgins we are sanctified for becoming uncorrupted "Parents." Anything past a personal history of monogamy implies an adultery, a non-monogamy. I know this sounds like B.S. but bear with me just a little longer. From the top of the wheel we turn again downward. We mature to an almost inevitable state of non-monogamy. Maturation can always be seen as a decline into a lower energy state. Post marital divorce almost always precedes 2nd marriages, however now days most of us lost our virginity before marriage. <Promiscuity is by definition any sexual contact with more than one other person.> This obviously can't be the end. We reach the bottom of the cycle only prepared to take on a new beginning with the ability to "love" many people emotionally, even without attachment. Maturation does seem to involve new capacities for a "love " that can again be pure, and it is generally not sexual. Unlike a supposed "one " true love, Emotional Affairs are almost always transitional in nature. Many of the most profound love relations are of this purely friend type.