I found on close reexamination of my post on "The Fine Art of Cold Reading" (Tues. June 4th, 2013) I neglected the whole issue of psychics who lie and then make up excuses. Cold reading usually means making overly general statements with the intent of fishing for "Hits." We've all seen amateur psychics who believe their own hype, wrecking things for everyone.
I can do better. Instead of being overly general, I much prefer to use language that makes people think. The real problem with "Cold Reading" is the violation of trust. We are all reading each other by different degrees all the time. But this is something that, out of respect, we do carefully and with discretion. Boundaries are delicately set to respond to any and all points of contact. Sensitive boundaries are the ones we train to interact with the dynamic social and physical environments. We may be able to recognize when others are feeling an attraction. Do I really want to know if that attractive married woman over there is attracted to me? No. Definitely not. Those perfectly healthy feelings of attraction that normal healthy people feel can occur for any of a variety of reasons. None of which are any of my business at all, ever. She in fact could be very happily married, much to contrary of that very destructive prejudice that says that happily married people are somehow incapable of enjoying the aesthetic stimulation of other healthy beautiful people. Any assumptions on my part, even if I do have an inside understanding of the micro expressions that can be read, would be a total violation of the basic codes of the ethical treatment for people, as well our right to the pursuit of individual personal happiness.
One of the ironies of my 2nd Vital Paradox, "Are there any Real Psychics?" is that there are so many phony psychics. (General Concepts, April, 9th. 2013) VIOLATION: Lying to people in order to get paid is always a "Moral Hazard." Forced Listening, just like Mind Reading is strictly verboten. Why don't we just put all the so called psychics into a cage and let them read each other? Oh yah, we tried that in the future and, well it gets interesting. I still believe it is wrong to take advantage of people by playing on peoples gullibility. Also, I have no respect for people who grope for approval from "True Believers. Pinging someones Sensitive Boundaries is going to sometimes happen accidentally anyways. Besides, making a big deal out of being able to easily read people is one of those things you generally want to play down. Being a good reader is a mixed blessing as well as a thankless job. What it is possible to know about a person will shatter any sense of privacy a person may have. I also believe in making people make their own decisions, always. And I will say it, repeatedly. "Everyone has Blind Spots and everyones Blind Spots are different." (2nd Rule)
Basically, here in this blog, we are building bridges to a Language of Mutual Reflection, by turning boundaries into identifiable points of mutual contact. Understanding our Sensitive Boundaries is at the core of the techniques and technologies we are learning.
