Understanding the behavior of Sympathetic Mirroring is key to respectful cold reading. Cold reading has gotten a bad reputation because of the way that just by watching peoples reactions we can get instant feedback. Plus by imitating someone gets us an inside view, a mirror copy of that other person inside of ourselves. And by mirroring other peoples behavior, we are building rapport. When we mirror people unintentionally, we are displaying trust and confidence in that other person. Generally we don't think about the subtleties of social graces but they are instinctually hardwired into the brain. Mirror neurons tell us about other people. We are designed for mutual reflection. This beautiful cascade of infinite encounter is the thing that we love, when we love each other.
There is something that blocks this mirror to others however. Objectification acts as the substitute for direct perception. Sensitive mirroring is not an objective awareness. We can only mirror what other people think, do and feel. When we are so arrogant as to think we're objective about feelings or emotions, we get trapped in object relations and attachments.
That I know of, there are four primary forms of objectification. Each is understandable but less than objective;
1. "Sexual Objectification"
2. And of course the "Status Symbol" type of objectification, which is often nothing more than hero worship sometimes involving elements of both the first and the third other two kinds of objectification.
3. "Romantic or Sentimental Objectification" (as in the case of the love object attachment)
These first and third forms of objectification conflict and feed off of each other. (War between the Sexes)
3. "Romantic or Sentimental Objectification" (as in the case of the love object attachment)
These first and third forms of objectification conflict and feed off of each other. (War between the Sexes)
4. And I almost forgot, "The Objectification of Loathing" (that cherished objectification of our hatred, the people you love to hate.) These second and fourth types of objectification are envy and pride.
{&? And I forgot, #5. THE SECURITY BLANKET [We might as well put this one in the middle of the wheel, it'll be obvious why when we get to the "Tibetan Book of the Dead."] THE SECURITY BLANKET. That object or talisman expected to ward off attack or the evil eye. One might to be surprised to see how often it is assumed that a person can be seen as that protective barrier / comforting and indomitable.}
{In proof reading I just noticed how neatly these categorical qualifications perfectly match the Meta Formal structure of the "Four Styles of Evasion." We might say we have a "WHEEL OF OBJECTIFICATION."}
Obviously objectification is like most lying, primarily naive and unintentional. But just like lying, objectification is often just self doubt and internalized evasiveness. That does not make objectification or lying any the less dysfunctional. Pathological behavior is the norm. Disfunction drives the self help industries. And as the norm, distrust and alienation are defenses that keeps us unwilling and unable to face each other. The challenge of having to see ourselves and each other without expectations is the essence of open innocence. Appearances and expectations aside, I hope you will be able to mirror a true and fair reflection of who we are as individuals.
Innocence is beauty. I want to show you what we are doing is right and truthful. But that's not up to me. When I'm speaking to someone, "You" are the center of my world. But it is up to each and everyone of us to know if and when we really trust someone. We all have had to learn how to control our behavior voluntarily. This entails unlearning certain inevitable learned evasions, but none the less we end up having to unlearn defensiveness all over again every time we want to meet a new person, with all our individual quirks and evasions. When a behavior, such as objectification is so normal, that it makes us considerably less sensitive, we are less prepared to trust and build rapport. We have to direct where to focus our emotional energies. This emotional conservatism is inevitable.
Conserving emotional energy is a survival instinct. But most of us have very little choice who we get to interact with, or trust other people. Mirroring, however, makes it possible for us to relearn, almost everything. It's just a much bigger step than most of us are willing to take. I would like to think that this book will help many people to take a bigger step out of self enclosed views into a better life for all of us. Hopefully facing these sensitive boundaries will help to make us all happier and wiser. The mirror is my gift to you. It's not mine anyways. Pass it along. Show your faith in your self by sharing. I love you and we may not have even met. More information to come.
Tuesday, August 6, 2013
Boundaries of Identification
Palmistry documents are near the bottom of the page:
We are here in the middle of our proposition. The types of signs given to each marking on anybodies hands are most clearly attributes. It is not necessary to attach importance to the personal nature of peoples individual psychic reading. You are given permission to closely examine and analyze each persons identifying features. There is still much confusion about the differences between a palm reading {Maps being read by a Reader,} and the oracle itself {The Maps themselves.} The reader translates for you what they are reading, the oracle is just a way of storing and processing the information you will have to translate for your clients. You can get a unique astrology reading from your Astrologer with unique unusual combinations of the possible interpretations, but the good reader is still just a translator. [The medium is not the message.] It is not necessary for me to assume to know everything about you, but it is wise to know how and where to find answers, even if they are in fact nothing more than a randomly assorted series of unrelated signs. There are limits. These are some of the Boundaries of Identification. And again the map is not the territory.
At present a lot of this work has been about identifying peoples individual sensitive boundaries. Recognizing boundaries is always helpful when dealing with people in any personal transaction. If you are able to recognize distinctive details of another persons identity, that's unusual. That makes you distinctive. Soon you will be able to see the hand as a mask of the body. You look into the hand, you are looking into the body. Study it. Get used to recognizing the details and differences. Unusual markings happen on unusual people. You will recognize the moods of how each of us moves, with style. Your interpretive skills and sensitivity will get you paid. This is where being tactful is the way to be modest. These are some of your Boundaries of Identification.
Understanding the delicacy of handling peoples self image is a matter of good sportsmanship. You are better off not to worry about being understood, just be understandable. Like a good bartender, always friendly never familiar. I don't ever try to focus on someone defects. I will always try to play to your strengths.
These are some of our Boundaries of Identification. Let's get to it. {I don't think my readers like the wheel of emotion.}
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Creative 2nd(Empty Yang) Summer 3rd(Empty Yin) Receptive
2.Adulthood
{>}Angry
> > > > >
Spring 1.Youth { ^}Happy "O" {v}Sad 3.Maturity Autumn
< < < < <
1st(Full Yang) Fearful{<} 4th(Full Yin)
Fire / Up 4.Death Water / Down
Winter <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
If you keep studying with me you are going to get to see a lot of these annoying diagrams, these are largely done for the sake of thoroughness. You will recognize the basic ordering and arrangement of the data, as is characteristic of an oracle, Tarot, Kabbalah, I Ching; all modular, each a coalescent. These are all mandalas. Modules of data. Totalistic, Hyperbolic, Analytic data. Take a unity, a whole person for instance and take them gently apart. Not a good Idea. But now take a map of a persons life for instance, and that can be worked very efficiently. The hand is read in the same way. The hand is divided into quarters, and three areas vertically.
Mercury 3rd. Passive conscious Jupiter 2nd. Active Conscious
Rationabilus
Animalus
Vegatabilus
Luna 4th. Passive Unconscious Venus 1st. Active Subconscious
There is some encyclopedic documentation of most of these models sited on WIKIPEDIA. As we compare these models for analyzing hands, stars, Tarot, Caballa, I Ching, we will see some unreconcilable differences between the models, as we compare them to the each of the other disciplines. Not all maps are the same, no matter how similar. learn to recognize the strengths and subtleties of each different type of analytic model. Each map is for the subject of each different types of mediums analysis only. Don't over think. "Not all software is compatible." Joseph Campbell.
1st. The life line is rising from out of the thumb, (Mars, over Venus) 2nd. The line then departs from under the index finger, (Jupiter) 3rd. It then sweeps out toward and past the little finger, (Mercury) 4th. Ending back at the bottom of the hand, (Luna)
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