We are going to be outlining the path from Attraction to Marriage. As with all of the posts up to this point I stubbornly refuse the temptation to tell you what to think or do. Instead I will only try to document the facts as best I can. Again as always wish me luck.
First I would like to again thank the "Spaminator" (Tues. Aug. 20th, 2013) for continuing to use their smut sites to access my blog, to which I never subscribed. It was your desperate pandering for American dollars that made me realize that your Games Theory promises were only that. Anyone can sell a promise. Mocking someone for being cautious about sex and intimacy (and business) is so weak.
But this blog is about information. I wont be trying to change anybodies style or vulnerability.
In defining the natural progressions of idealized relationships, we can use a language of directions. Initiation >>>> Reception. Approach >>>> Evaluation. I know how scary this sounds. Nobody seeks rejection. Anyone can fear entanglement. All of these dynamics of relation can be thought of as vectors. Boundary definitions of Inclusion and Exclusion are implicit. This is why the temptation to cheat is the inevitable result of feelings of guilt. The inevitable conflicts between attachment and independence are always subjects of negotiation. Hence the need for a common enemy. It's not enough to have something (someone,) to approach, we also seek to avoid. Desire and fear are just opposite sides of the same objectives. The choices we make have consequences. We can experience excitement and or anxiety about making decisions. This is why seduction and promiscuity are used to escape the stressful challenges of negotiation.
You can probably tell from my tone I am difficult. Once when my teacher confronted me about me being a "Professional Visitor," (term from the applied Games Theory of a Napoleon Hill) I said the payoffs for getting what you want aren't always worth the compromise. Professional visitors are supposed to be liked by everyone, but are rarely ever paid or laid. As someone who has a healthy distaste for both money and sex I really don't take it that personally. Desire yes, attachment not so much. We all have experienced that disorienting "Love and Anger" that comes from intense attraction. Our necessary curiosity and heightened interests are characteristic of that dynamic of attraction.
We will be looking at the dichotomy of passion and reason. We use avoidance and acceptance to help to make choices or remain indecisive. In considering choices between acceptance or rejection, we are making decisions about incidentals of consequence. This comes back to objectives. For most people, we often know more about what we think we don't want, than what we do want. Add to this problem a shared history of self denial and now we have multi billion dollar porn media industries that prey on our societies feelings of voluntary isolation. We are torn between the desires for personal freedom and responsibility, and our need to be touched. HARSH!
Let's look at some of these incidentals of consequence. In the plus category we have; Love, companionship, planned parenthood, partnerships, Love, family, and again hopefully Love. And oh yes, maybe a green card. In the minus column we have; rejection, heartache, divorce, abuse, boredom, jealousy, etc. In the same way that studying humor isn't always funny, studying love often isn't very romantic. Working as a galley slave in numerous restaurants has taught me about loosing my sense of taste. When you work around food all the time it starts to loose it's appeal. Could I also have a tainted palette for love? If my work on "Circular Maturation" (Tues. Oct. 1st, 2013) is correct there is definitely true love without sex. Let us all prepare for the surprising thrill of emotional affairs, and no they don't have to threaten the security of a monogamous relationship. Contrary to popular prejudice, it is definitely possible to love more than one person.
Well enough on this page. I told you you were going to be sick of me by the time I finished this book. Don't worry you will get to take much more away with you than it took to read this whirlwind tour of the gritty world of psychic consultation. Thank you.
