My teacher had said that, "Telepathy is one of the most inconvenient things that can ever happen." I also had a Croatian Sociology professor who would say, "Make predictions, but never assume." (1st Axiomatic Rule of a Para Psychological Method, "A persons guess is always better than odds would allow.) I'm wondering, how do I approach this subject. I use myself as an example of why we should be minding our own business, but I promised this book was not going to be about me. This is a blog however and although I know I'm going to keep this pleasant, I suspect self disclosure is the only way I'm going to stay on point.
As a 57 year old recovering opium addict I've found physical education has been good for me and my return to a social life. If you've seen my work on "Circular Maturation," (reposted under, "TRANSITIONAL RELATIONS" / Wed. Oct. 23rd / from the earlier "Growing Into A New History, NEXT CORE DOCUMENTATION" / July 4th 2013,) you will have seen my proposition that "Emotional affairs are inevitable and generally non sexual." As I have seen, most people are not happy to forgo love just because they have moved past a pair bond relationship that has run it's course. That need for love is the thing that motivates us to want things to, "Work Out." When you get to my age, and you are single, almost everyone has been in a rebound relationship and therefore realistically is not likely to have affairs that "Just Workout." Add that most people fantasize about idealized relationships, and everyones first deeply meaningful emotional affair can be very stressful. Most people need to be more forgiving. All most everyone knows a friend, who has totally flipped out at someone for disappointing them. (2nd Axiomatic Rule for the Para Psychological Methods, Everyone has blind spots and everyones blind spots are different.")
On point now. I've discovered that "Friend Love" can be very unemotional, but for some, emotional attachments can also be very jealous and even antagonistic. The term "Bromance" has been thrown around like the latest trending insult. I was delighted to discover, that after separation from my common law spouse and 15 years of celibacy, I am loved. As I don't toy with peoples emotions, I found these type of connections with people made my recovery much more fun. The kinds of athletes I am surrounded by, (Male and Female) aren't just beautiful, they have been looked at like objects most of their lives. The popular prejudices about the culture of the body tries to sexualize everyone. I believe this is one of the unintended causes behind obesity, people feel resigned to misjudge themselves as unattractive and try to escape behind negative and distorted self images. I myself am overjoyed that my gym is not a pickup joint, as many tend to be. I believe there is a curse of beauty, and modesty is the only defense. (3rd Axiomatic Rule for the Para Psychological Methods, "Some people are very different, very differently.")
Conscious non verbal communications are usually the result of cultivated rapport skills, not mind reading. Any presumptive behaviors can be very alienating. Pandering is for idiots. As I would hope the point of what I'm trying to illustrate is not lost, I'll say, in the same way I wouldn't want to assume my writing is always clear, we especially need to be sensitive with others, when considering the consequences of our approach to other people's feelings. (4th Axiomatic Rule for the Para Psychological Methods / "Everybody Needs Love.")
